ANGER: an emotion with the power to destroy — learn how to harness that power for good

  • Focus on possible unmet needs instead of the trigger
  • See it from a different perspective
  1. Express the feeling — when the stimulus happened I felt …. Again this is not a judgement, it is fact.
  2. Articulate the need that is not being fulfilled. For example, I need to feel valued or I need to have security.
  3. Make a request Ask for what you would like from the other person to fulfil the need



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Lisa Allen

Lisa Allen

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